I’m really posting this because of numbers 5 and 8, which are particularly good. Not perfect, but good— and both things that I wish I would have been taught at 13.
This list could do with some additions, but I’m too lazy for that right now. Instead I will simply say:
#7 needs to be talked about. Perhaps in different terms, but just. Yes.
#8 I like, but it’s kind of heteronormative and it uses the old “team” terminology which I really hate. Sexuality is less of a team sport and more like playing Calvin Ball: the rules are totally made up as you go, subject to change at any time, and the objective should as a general rule be to enjoy yourself.
#10. Forever. Especially for women, especially for LGBTQI folks, especially when there are mitigating factors like trauma history or illness or any of the other things that can complicate sex. Why this is not the first fucking thing every sex ed teacher tells every kid I will never understand. As a result of not having that introduced, a lot of us have a really hard time with this. So start that conversation early. Seriously.
Also, I would really like for someone at some point to tell kids that ace folks exist, that they are perfectly fine thank-you-very-much, and that it is more than okay to be one of them. I doubt this will ever actually take place, but I can dream.