“Womens’ supposed greater sex drive was an argument for their inferiority, but once the assumption became reversed, no one argued that mens’ lustfulness was a sign of a fundamental irrationality that should preclude them from business and politics. Rather than a handicap, a large sexual appetite was positive once it came to be seen as a characteristic of men. Women, being passionless, supposedly lacked the drive and ambition to succeed. Much like sex, the public realm of work was dirty and distasteful, hardly suitable to womens’ delicate sensibilities.” —

When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men

Really interesting article about how the perceptions of sex (especially sex drive) have basically reversed gender roles in the past few hundred years.

…and no matter what the outcome is, women still seem to end up at home.

(via tooyoungforthelivingdead)

This is why we cant win no matter how much we refute their logic:we have already lost, these are just their justifications to keep us busy.

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The goal posts are always moving.

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ksmoeller:

I’m really posting this because of numbers 5 and 8, which are particularly good. Not perfect, but good— and both things that I wish I would have been taught at 13.

This list could do with some additions, but I’m too lazy for that right now. Instead I will simply say:

#7 needs to be talked about. Perhaps in different terms, but just. Yes.

#8 I like, but it’s kind of heteronormative and it uses the old “team” terminology which I really hate. Sexuality is less of a team sport and more like playing Calvin Ball: the rules are totally made up as you go, subject to change at any time, and the objective should as a general rule be to enjoy yourself.

#10. Forever. Especially for women, especially for LGBTQI folks, especially when there are mitigating factors like trauma history or illness or any of the other things that can complicate sex. Why this is not the first fucking thing every sex ed teacher tells every kid I will never understand. As a result of not having that introduced, a lot of us have a really hard time with this. So start that conversation early. Seriously. 

Also, I would really like for someone at some point to tell kids that ace folks exist, that they are perfectly fine thank-you-very-much, and that it is more than okay to be one of them. I doubt this will ever actually take place, but I can dream.

“Slut” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “yes”. “Friendzone” is how we vilify a woman for exercising her right to say “no”.” —

angels-and-angles 

(via bornthisbrown)

Succinct and accurate. 

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It’s a game where the rules constantly change and you can never win. Have fun!

“But I always have and still do consider myself queer. To me, being queer isn’t who you’re sleeping with; it’s just an idea that sexuality isn’t gender-based, that it’s love-based.” — Ani DiFranco (via gaywrites)

reblog if you want an ‘A’ on ‘LGBT’

akinindrasutomo:

because asexual exists

“We don’t allow men’s sexuality to dehumanize them in our eyes. If a young man spends his weekends partying and flirting with women, and spends his time in the classroom pulling down As, we don’t see that as a contradiction. The belief that female sexual expression is uniquely dehumanizing is a double standard, no matter how much you dress it up in feminist language. Instead of condemning young women for the length of their skirts, why not use that energy for condemning anyone who would think that a woman is lesser-than because she wears a miniskirt?” — Amanda Marcotte response to Lisa Belkin’s article on social inequalities between men and women on college campuses. (via feministslut)

“I’m also a feminist because I like to fuck, and I resent everything and everyone that would make that a secret shame. I fuck not to make marriages or babies but simply to fuck, and I am sick and fucking tired of the government and beer ads and my friends and fucking Cosmopolitan telling me there’s something wrong with that.” — The Pervocracy: Full Frontal Feminism (via doilydyke)